To manage fear you only need to believe you can do things. To manage danger you must be able to do things.
No intelligent man has ever lost a fight to someone who said 'I'm gonna kick your ass'.
Know this: Your own brain will lie to you. It will backstab and sabotage you to prevent ANY change. 
The dream is damned and dreamer too if dreaming's all that dreamers do.
Here's a rule of life: You don't get to pick what bad things happen to you 
Why is a caterpillar wrapped in silk while it changes into a butterfly? So the other caterpillars can't hear the screams. Change hurts
It is much easier and safer to scare someone into submission than to beat them into submission.
Read DeBecker's book.
Better to avoid than run, better to run than de-escalcate, better to de-escalate than fight, better to fight than die. 
It is better to avoid than to run, better to run than to de-escalate, better to de-escalate than to fight, better to fight than to die.