Iyanla Vanzant Quotes

Everybody's got a 'thing.' Some 'things' are nice and quiet. Some 'things' have fangs and claws. Some 'things' stink and have slobber everywhere.

When your life is working there will be an absence of drama

Mistakes are lessons that you need to learn!

When Oprah Winfrey tells you that you need to have your own show, you feel compelled to do it. Especially if she's gonna pay for it!

Lives fall apart when they need to be rebuilt.

When anyone makes comments that are offensive to you, would you be willing to do the teaching?

Transformation doesn't have to be deep, dark and mysterious. If you screw up, fine - laugh at yourself, learn and move on.

I surround people in unconditional acceptance and love to such a degree that everything that is unloving about them rises to the surface.

What will support any relationship is clear, complete and conscious conversations when upsets or breakdowns occur.

I grew up in the Holiness Church, where prayer was an event.

A man who is not accountable to anyone is a danger to himself

Faith without challenge is nothing.

What if forgiving my mother also means forgiving myself?

A change of perspective may be all it takes to transform a painful experience into a powerful growth experience.

longer than it was necessary or productive to do so.

All things are lessons that God would have us learn.

Everything God does is purposeful. And since God is in each of us, each of us has a purpose.

Every day is your day if you claim it. If you wait for somebody else to make it for you, you're going to be disappointed.

Embrace the truth. Speak the truth. Be the truth. When we welcome the truth, we live our lives like it's golden.

From speaking with my mother I learned that forgiveness is a process that begins with the choice to end your own suffering.

Choice is our point of power.

Every choice you make supersedes and overrides every other choice you make.

When you enter a new experience, all that requires healing rushes to the surface ... You have to pause.

If you want to be at peace, you have to be clear about your intetion and - moment by moment - in alignment with your intention

Everyone has something that blocks us from the full experience and expression of our nobility.

What looks like a failure teaches us what not to do, what does not work. We have lessons to learn from our experiences.

It is always so much easier to blame someone else rather than accepting responsibility for your experiences.

As we learn to see each other through our spiritual eyes, the physical differences will cease to matter.

darkness, you bring in the light.

Black Girls rock because we have no other choice.

When you're the strong one, people don't give you permission to hurt.

If you don't ask for what you need, the need will keep getting bigger.

Today I am devoted to addressing all the little things about me and in my life that I have not mastered!

If you're not willing to let your partner see your cellulite or know your biggest fears, then you aren't really ready to share yourself.

I had to get really clear about what was meaningful & what wasn't, who I was & who I wasn't & who I wasn't going to be anymore.

This is probably one of the most difficult challenges any parent could face - learning to love the other parent enough to make the children first.

When you give to others to the degree that you sacrifice yourself, you make the other person a thief.

Parents are teachers, guides, leaders, protectors and providers for their children.

You've got to be willing to lose everything to gain yourself.

Create what you want as opposed to being stuck in what you didn't have.

Act the way you want to be and soon you will be the way you act.

The remedy for life's broken pieces is not classes, workshops or books. Don't try to heal the broken pieces. Just forgive.

An unpeaceful mind cannot hear God. Any unpeaceful feeling is the indicator that what I am thinking is forgivable.

When you believe, or are led to believe, you are unable to act upon the greatest desires of the soul, the result is mental and spiritual enslavement.

I am now willing to forgive myself ... for believing I could offer something to others before I have offered it to myself.

Use your time, energy and talents to do the best you can right now. Spend no time wishing it were better

I'm really not that fierce.

Wherever your gift is, that's where it's going to be your greatest challenge.

Healing is the application of love.

When the time comes for you to make a change or to grow, the universe will make you so uncomfortable you will eventually have no choice.

I learned that telling the truth was a big part of loving yourself.

In 2002, my daughter was diagnosed with a rare form of colon cancer. And it was such a shock, a surprise to us.

You don't get to tell people how to love you; you get to choose if you want to participate in the way they love.

People are hurting. People are suffering. But you can not get everywhere.

People say I've had a difficult time in life. I think I've had an exciting time in life.

If you don't have a test, you won't be able to have a testimony.

People you don't love can't hurt you.

If it's not your story to tell, you don't tell it.

Give yourself permission to smile a lot today. In fact, why not make it a habit!

Comparing yourself to others is an act of violence against your authentic self.

TRIED SO HARD TO KEEP THEM FROM FAILING THAT I FAILED TO GIVE THEM WHAT THEY NEEDED TO SUCCEED

The only thing that goes on in your life is what your allow to go on in your life

To me, freedom means having the power, the inherent right, the capacity and the ability to make choices that honour who I am.

It is important to acknowledge all your feelings and not beat yourself up for having them. Your feelings are not good or bad, they just are.

Always remember who you are. Know that you are never required to apologize to anyone for being yourself.

Spiritual consciousness does not make your problems go away; it does, however, help you view them from a different vantage point.

Do what brings you joy, and your purpose will unfold.

I now realize that just because you can take a punch does not mean you must stand in front of a fist, particularly not when the fist is your own.

You have set standards for how you want to be treated and what you expect from yourself and for yourself.

Gratitude is like a magnet; the more grateful you are, the more you will receive to be grateful for.

Sitting alone, listening to the sound of your breath, the beating of your heart is a reminder that you are sacred and blessed.

Sharing what you've learned and helping others is a good source of renewal.

When two broken people bring their broken pieces together, chances are they will never become a whole anything.

Love is what you are, not what you give or get!

If you want a real experience of serenity, look for the good. Affirm the good. Acknowledge the good.

I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace.

Judgment is harsh and mean and meant to hurt, as if the pain of what we do or say will slap others into our way of believing.

You are not being tested! You are being fortified! Remember, you cannot fail!

I'm focusing on healing lives and teaching people that they can heal - giving them tools to heal.

When you stand and share your story in an empowering way, your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else.

Forgiveness is not about the other person or what they did. Forgiveness is for YOU and about YOU.

The ego does not want to be wrong, ever.

Forgiveness frees the forgiver.

WE [black women] HAVE ADAPTED TO A SOCIETY THAT DOES'NT HONOR US.

Gossip is when you have a malice of intent or mindless, third-party conversation to someone about someone, something you haven't said to that someone.

When was the last time you thanked you for always being there for you? Self appreciation soothes an aching soul.

One thing that prevents a man from being a good father is he hasn't completed being a boy.

You are the light of the world. You are an instrument of the Divine. You are the greatest miracle in the world. Life is graced by your presence.

Some children do what they're told to do; some children do what they're told not to do; all children do what they're parents have done.

You can never love anyone to your own detriment. That is not love, that is possession, control, fear, or a combination of them all.

WHEN YOU HAVE A PAYCHECK-TO-PAYCHECK MENTALITY, IT IS DIFFICULT TO SEE THE POSSIBILITY OF HAVING

Their issues are not your issues.

I am the one I have been looking for.

The way we do one thing is the way we do everything.

We see in one another the things we cannot see or accept about

If you should encounter angry or unkind actions today, take a deep breath, reach deep within and greet the lack of love with love.

The goal isn't to be perfect, but to be authentic!

Just give yourself permission to tell the truth to yourself.

Your willingness to look at your darkness is what empowers you to change.

Life gives you an endless supply of do-overs.