Melody Beattie Quotes

God, help me remember that when I admit and accept the truth, I'll be given the power and guidance to change.

Caring works. Caretaking doesn't. We can learn to walk the line between the two.

Worrying, obsessing, and controlling are illusions. They are tricks we play on ourselves.

Waiting time is not wasted time. Something is being worked out - in us, in someone else, in the Universe.

Real power comes when we stop holding others responsible for our pain, and we take responsibility for all our feelings.

It's not what we don't know that hurts us, people say. It's what we believe is true that isn't that does the damage.

This moment, we are right where we need to be, right where we are meant to be.

Today, I will let go. I will stop trying to control everything. I will stop trying to make myself be and do better, and I will let myself be.

Others do not have our magic. We have our magic. It is in us.

Today, I will focus on what's right about me. I will give myself some of the caring I've extended to the world.

Anger is a warning signal. It points to problems.

God, help me let go of my need to deprive myself of being alive.

Sometimes, we don't get what we want ... But this is a benevolent universe. And once in a while, we do.

Live your life fom your heart. Share from your heart. And your story will touch and heal people's souls.

Expressing passion and gratitude will guide your life. Say it again and again. Say it until you believe it. Say it until you live it.

Everything comes at its appointed moment. - Joseph R. Sizoo

If we want to change what happens, we change what we believe and expect.

Start today to follow your heart.
Map out your own journey.
Have the adventure of a lifetime.

The lesson I was learning involved the idea that I could feel compassion for people without acting on it.

Gratitude can turn a meal into a feast.

We learn the magical lesson that making the most of what we have turns it into more.

The formula is simple: In any given situation, detach and ask, What do I need to do to take care of myself?

Spontaneity emerges as our confidence and trust in ourselves increase, and we become more secure in our ability to maintain healthy boundaries.

Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give.

Feel what you feel, know what you know, and set your relatives free to do the same.

Perspective will come in retrospect.

Today, I will wait if the way is not clear. I will trust that out of the chaos will come clarity.

Striving for excellence is a positive quality. Striving for perfection is self-defeating.

We work it out, or live it out.

When it's too difficult to keep swimming, float.

We can trust ourselves to know when our boundaries are being violated.

Acceptance is the magic that makes change possible. It is not forever, it is for the present moment

Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life.

Fun is a normal part of being alive. Fun is taking time to celebrate being alive.

Who you are is love. What love does is heal.

Today, I will focus on having a good relationship with myself.

Set boundaries even when you're scared, and when it doesn't feel comfortable to do. Eventually setting boundaries will happen naturally for you,

Relax, you're on a journey of discovery. Let life reveal itself to you.

Each moment in time we have it all, even when we think we don't.

Letting go of our ideas about how life should go is a choice that sets life's magic free.

If you have done nothing to feel embarrassed about, don't feel embarrassed. I know this is a tough concept, but it can be mastered.

In martial arts, every time you graduate, move to another level, you don't forget everything you've done. You build on it, but it's always there.

Each life needs its own quiet place.

We've realized that women have souls, and men have feelings.

We don't just get our choice; we get the consequence that choice creates.

It's so easy to look around and notice what's wrong. It takes practice to see what's right.

Don't violate your own code of values and ethics, but don't waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs.

Nurtured, nourished people, who love themselves and care for themselves, are the delight of the Universe.

Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction.

The greatest gift we can bring to any relationship wherever we go is being who we are.

Our best problem-solving resource is peace. Solutions arise easily and naturally out of a peaceful state.

Even recovery brings losses, more changes we must struggle to accept.

Self-care isn't selfish; it's self-esteem.

Codependency is about normal behaviors taken too far. It's about crossing lines.

We need to build downtime into our lives, so that we can have solitude without feeling overcome with guilt.

A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.

Taking care of myself is a big job. No wonder I avoided it for so long. - ANONYMOUS

Today, I will watch myself and listen to myself as I go through my day. I will not judge myself for what I'm feeling; I will accept myself.

Love yourself just as you are.

I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again.

Other people maay be there to help us, teach us, guide us aolng our path, But the lesson to be learned is always ours

You don't blast a heart open," she said. "You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose.

When you let go of fear and the need to control, you'll experience how mysterious, sacred, and interesting Life can be.

The test, the mark, of a person that's on a spiritual path is whether they can live in harmony.

Today, I will strive for balance.

Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay.

We cannot change others, but when we change ourselves, we may end up changing the world.

Love means each person is free to follow his or her own heart.

If that person doesn't want to be in your life, just let him or her leave.

The plan will happen in spite of us, not because of us.

If somebody rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as much as you would be if you had not been rejected.

We have as much time as we need.

It's our job to first make ourselves feel better and then make ourselves feel good.

When our heart is broken, we can't hear it. And when we can't hear our heart, we can't hear God.

Recovery is not about being right; it's about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are.

Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable ...

Today, God, help me to know that it is okay to allow myself to be human. Help me not to feel guilty or punish myself when I need to "fall apart.

The only limitations on you are the ones you've placed on yourself.

Today, I will not wait for others to see and care; I will take responsibility for being aware of my pain and problems, and caring about myself.

If we are waiting for guaranteed courses of action, we may spend much of our life waiting.

Panic is our great enemy.

When we don't ask for what we want and need, we discount ourselves.

Relationships are where we take our recovery on the road.

Quit hanging on to the handrails ... Let go. Surrender. Go for the ride of your life. Do it every day.

Taking time to rest, renew, and refresh yourself isn't wasted time. Recharge. Choose what energizes you.

Today, I will trust that God will do for me what I cannot do for myself. I will do my part - working the Twelve Steps and letting God do the rest.

What's a codependent? The answer's easy. They're some of the most loving, caring people I know.

No - simple to pronounce, hard to say.

Believing that things happen too slowly or too quickly is an illusion. Timing is perfect.

Beliefs create reality

We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.

We are on a very rich emotional and physical journey on this planet.

Today, everything I need shall be supplied to me.

Be patient. Relax and trust. Let go. Then, let go some more.

I never know what the next lesson is going to be, because we're not supposed to know
we're supposed to trust ourselves to discover it.

Many of us react as though everything is a crisis because we have lived with so many crises for so long that crisis reaction has become a habit.

There are almost as many definitions of co-dependency as there are experiences that represent it.

The only person you can now or ever change is yourself. The only person that it is your business to control is yourself.

As I've said before, no wonder we think God has abandoned us; we've abandoned ourselves.

Panic, not the task, is the enemy.