We need to build downtime into our lives, so that we can have solitude without feeling overcome with guilt. 
A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior. 
I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again. 
Other people maay be there to help us, teach us, guide us aolng our path, But the lesson to be learned is always ours 
If that person doesn't want to be in your life, just let him or her leave. 
The plan will happen in spite of us, not because of us. 
Each life needs its own quiet place. 
We don't just get our choice; we get the consequence that choice creates. 
In martial arts, every time you graduate, move to another level, you don't forget everything you've done. You build on it, but it's always there. 
Love means each person is free to follow his or her own heart. 
Many of us react as though everything is a crisis because we have lived with so many crises for so long that crisis reaction has become a habit. 
I never know what the next lesson is going to be, because we're not supposed to know we're supposed to trust ourselves to discover it.
Today, everything I need shall be supplied to me. 
If somebody rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as much as you would be if you had not been rejected. 
Quit hanging on to the handrails ... Let go. Surrender. Go for the ride of your life. Do it every day. 
If we are waiting for guaranteed courses of action, we may spend much of our life waiting. 
Today, I will not wait for others to see and care; I will take responsibility for being aware of my pain and problems, and caring about myself. 
Today, God, help me to know that it is okay to allow myself to be human. Help me not to feel guilty or punish myself when I need to "fall apart. 
We have as much time as we need. 
It's our job to first make ourselves feel better and then make ourselves feel good. 
When our heart is broken, we can't hear it. And when we can't hear our heart, we can't hear God. 
Recovery is not about being right; it's about allowing ourselves to be who we are and accepting others as they are. 
Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable ... 
The only limitations on you are the ones you've placed on yourself. 
Panic is our great enemy. 
When we don't ask for what we want and need, we discount ourselves. 
Relationships are where we take our recovery on the road. 
Taking time to rest, renew, and refresh yourself isn't wasted time. Recharge. Choose what energizes you. 
What's a codependent? The answer's easy. They're some of the most loving, caring people I know. 
No - simple to pronounce, hard to say. 
Believing that things happen too slowly or too quickly is an illusion. Timing is perfect. 
Beliefs create reality 
We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them. 
We are on a very rich emotional and physical journey on this planet. 
Be patient. Relax and trust. Let go. Then, let go some more. 
There are almost as many definitions of co-dependency as there are experiences that represent it. 
The only person you can now or ever change is yourself. The only person that it is your business to control is yourself. 
As I've said before, no wonder we think God has abandoned us; we've abandoned ourselves. 
Panic, not the task, is the enemy. 
Today, I will trust that God will do for me what I cannot do for myself. I will do my part - working the Twelve Steps and letting God do the rest. 
Self-care isn't selfish; it's self-esteem. 
Even recovery brings losses, more changes we must struggle to accept. 
Our best problem-solving resource is peace. Solutions arise easily and naturally out of a peaceful state. 
Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction. 
Nurtured, nourished people, who love themselves and care for themselves, are the delight of the Universe. 
Don't violate your own code of values and ethics, but don't waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs. 
It's so easy to look around and notice what's wrong. It takes practice to see what's right. 
We've realized that women have souls, and men have feelings. 
When you let go of fear and the need to control, you'll experience how mysterious, sacred, and interesting Life can be. 
The greatest gift we can bring to any relationship wherever we go is being who we are. 
We cannot change others, but when we change ourselves, we may end up changing the world. 
Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay. 
Today, I will strive for balance. 
The test, the mark, of a person that's on a spiritual path is whether they can live in harmony. 
Codependency is about normal behaviors taken too far. It's about crossing lines. 
You don't blast a heart open," she said. "You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose. 
Love yourself just as you are. 
Today, I will watch myself and listen to myself as I go through my day. I will not judge myself for what I'm feeling; I will accept myself. 
Taking care of myself is a big job. No wonder I avoided it for so long. - ANONYMOUS 