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We can never make anyone do anything against their will without enormous consequences.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
The only time a message (label) can scare us is if we think there is such a thing, and that such a thing is a disgrace.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Never give advice to your children unless you have it in writing and notarized.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that our well-being and the well-being of others are in fact one and the same.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
When our communication supports compassionate giving and receiving, happiness replaces violence and grieving.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
My anger tells me firstly that there's a need of mine that's not getting met.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
We are this divine energy. It's not something we have to attain. We just have to realize it, to be present to it.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Fear of corporal punishment obscures children's awareness of the compassion underlying the parent's demands.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Empathy: Emptying our mind and listening with our whole being
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
We know the speaker has received adequate empathy when a. we sense a release of tension, or b. the flow of words comes to a halt.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
We want to take action out of the desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
The cause of anger lies in our thinking - in thoughts of blame and judgment.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Whether I praise or criticize someone's action, I imply that I am their judge, that I'm engaged in rating them or what they have done.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Once you have access to key people in an organization, if you go into a meeting with enemy images of those people - then you are not going to connect.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
People have been trained to criticize, insult, and otherwise communicate in ways that create distance among people.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
People don't make us angry, how we think makes us angry.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
A respectful understanding of another's experience.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
in a more loving manner, and those two things you said provide the direction I was looking for.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
The intention behind the protective use of force is to prevent injury, never to punish or to cause individuals to suffer, repent or change.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
While we may not consider the way we talk to be 'violent,' our words often lead to hurt and pain, whether for others or for ourselves.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Tragically, one of the rarest commodities in our culture is empathy. People are hungry for empathy, They don't know how to ask for it.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
We can't win at somebody else's expense. We can only fully be satisfied when the other person's needs are fulfilled as well as our own.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
What all the basic religions are saying is this: Don't do anything that isn't play.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
A need is life seeking expression within us.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
NVC shows us a way of being very honest, but without any criticism, insults, or putdowns, and without any intellectual diagnosis implying wrongness.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
The first step in healing is to put the focus on what's alive now, not what happened in the past.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
peace cannot be built on the foundations of fear.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Fear of punishment diminishes self-esteem and goodwill.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Don't hate the circumstance, you may miss the blessing
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
It's really a spiritual practice that I am trying to show as a way of life.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
At the root of every tantrum and power struggle are unmet needs.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Empathy lies in our ability to be present without opinion.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Don't get addicted to your requests. Your objective is needs, not requests. Because then it becomes a demand.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
When you need empathy, you cannot give empathy.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
With empathy we don't direct, we follow. Don't just do something, be there.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
All moralistic judgments, whether positive or negative, are tragic expressions of unmet needs.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
I never have to worry about another person's response, only how I react to what they say.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
When people hear needs, it provokes compassion.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
NVC is founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Punishment also includes judgmental labeling and the withholding of privileges.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
When we understand the needs that motivate our own and others behavior, we have no enemies.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Make your goal to attend to your underlying needs and to aim for a resolution so satisfying that everyone involved has their needs met also.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
We are compassionate with ourselves when we are able to embrace all parts of ourselves and recognize the needs and values expressed by each part.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
It's harder to empathize with those who appear to possess more power, status, or resources.
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If we don't tell people about our needs, it is much less likely they will be met.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
When I recognize I've got anger, then I realize it's because I have a need that's not being met.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
It may be most difficult to empathize with those we are closest to.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
You can't make your kids do anything. All you can do is make them wish they had. And then, they will make you wish you hadn't made them wish they had.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
NVC is a way of keeping our consciousness tuned in moment by moment to the beauty within ourselves.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
When it comes to giving advice, never do so unless you've first received a request in writing, signed by a lawyer.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
What I want in my life is compassion a flow between myself and others
based on mutual giving from the heart. — Marshall B. Rosenberg
Empathy before education.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
The most important use of NVC may be in developing self-compassion.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Classifying and judging people promotes violence.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Let's shine the light of consciousness on places where we can hope to find what we are seeking.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
With every choice you make, be conscious of what need it serves.
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We are designed for Giving
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Never hear what somebody thinks about you, you'll live longer. Hear that they're in pain. Don't hear their analysis.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Violence in any form is a tragic expression of our unmet needs.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Fix-it jackals can't wait to fix it, because they don't know how to enjoy pain. And until you learn how to enjoy pain, you can't enjoy intimacy.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
How I choose to look at any situation will greatly affect whether I have the power to change it or make matters worse.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Anger, depression, guilt, and shame are the product of the thinking that is at the base of violence on our planet.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
The more we empathize with the other party, the safer we feel.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not heard you.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
It's never what people do that makes us angry; it's what we tell ourselves about what they did.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Every message, regardless of form or content, is an expression of a need.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
When we are in contact with our feelings and needs, we humans no longer make good slaves and underlings.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things 'because we're supposed to.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
People do not hear our pain when they believe they are at fault.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Understanding the other persons' needs does not mean you have to give up on your own needs.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Be very slow to go into looking for solutions.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Use anger as a wake-up call to unmet needs.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Anger tells us we've disconnected from life. The purpose in anger is to use it to come back to life.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
Depression is the reward we get for being 'good'.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
We give empathy to others for our own benefit.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
All human actions are an attempt to meet needs.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg
We need empathy to give empathy.
— Marshall B. Rosenberg