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Rock climbers and long-distance ocean swimmers will tell you it isn't the mountain or the water that kills - it is panic

An unhappy child not getting comfort or support at home will look for it somewhere else. Next

In America, a woman is killed by a spouse every two hours.

Most human predators, however, seek power, not food. To destroy or damage something is to take its power.

In fact, if perceived as a rude woman, you are far less attractive a target than a polite one.

That's what happens when you're angry at people. You make them part of your life. - Garrison Keillor In

I don't believe in such a thing as the criminal mind. Everyone's mind is criminal; we're all capable of criminal fantasies and thoughts.

No is a word that must never be negotiated, because the person who chooses not to hear it is trying to control you.

No matter how famous the victim, no matter how powerful the advocates, it simply isn't always possible to control the conduct of other people.

The value of threats is determined by our reaction.

Those people we are willing to suspect are inherently less dangerous than those we refuse to suspect. We

building prisons is our number one social program for young men

So when we wonder why we are victims so often, the answer is clear: It is because we are so good at it.

Usually, they have to attach a tentacle to someone else before detaching all the tentacles from their current object.

I am capable of what every other human is capable of. This is one of the great lessons of war and life.

Those who are good will qualify themselves.

Denial is a save now, pay later scheme.

when a victim tells her story and people respond with You-should-have-this or You-should-never-have-that, they are often adding to the victimization.

There is no mystery of human behavior that cannot be solved inside your head or your heart.

Threats betray the speaker by proving that he has failed to influence events in any other way. Most often they represent desperation, not intention.

Does he do all this with evil design? No, it is part of his concept of how to retain love.

Most men fear getting laughed at or humiliated by a romantic prospect while most women fear rape and death.

I've heard many times that people would make a comment, 'This looks like a bomb,' and still open it. That's one for the psychologists to answer.

Avoid being in the presence of someone who might do you harm.

Your suspicion alone is more than enough justification for preventing time alone with your child. You

MEN WHO CANNOT LET GO CHOOSE WOMEN WHO CANNOT SAY NO.

Their lives are literally on the line in ways men just don't experience.

A Federal research project selected 1,600 children who had been abused or neglected and followed them for nearly twenty years.

You have the gift of a brilliant internal guardian that stands ready to warn you of hazards and guide you through risky situations.

If you tell someone ten times that you don't want to talk to him, you are talking to them - nine more times than you wanted to.

The solution to violence in America is the acceptance of reality

Intuition is always right in at least two important ways;
It is always in response to something.
it always has your best interest at heart

I encourage people to remember that "no" is a complete sentence.

You'll be thinking of me. You may not be thinking good thoughts, but you'll be thinking of me.

Every human behavior can be explained by what precedes it, but that does not excuse it,

Safety is the preeminent concern of all creatures and it clearly justifies a seemingly abrupt and rejecting response from time to time.

Believing that others will react as we would is the single most dangerous myth of intervention.

Learned that the time after a major incident offered a period of safety and the best rest,

violence is committed by people who look and act like people,

I have had a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.

The unsolicited promise is one of the most reliable signals because it is nearly always of questionable motive.

(if you never make a decision, you can't make a mistake). It

We want recognition, not accomplishment.

A woman is expected, first and foremost, to respond to every communication from a man.

Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait.

Ordinary citizens can encounter violence at their jobs to the point that homicide is now the leading cause of death for women in the workplace.