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The bolder and more courageous you are, the more you will learn about yourself. — Harriet Lerner

Wherever you find a wife and mother-in-law slugging it out, you'll find a son who's not speaking up to either his mother or his wife. — Harriet Lerner

Being in touch with our bodies, or more accurately, being our bodies, is how we know what is true. Harriet — Harriet Lerner

The first world we find ourselves in is a family that is not of our choosing. — Harriet Lerner

Believing that all women should want to be mothers makes about as much sense as believing that all men should want to be engineers. — Harriet Lerner

People marry with a deep longing that their partner will tend to their wounds, not throw salt in them. Honor your partner's vulnerability. — Harriet Lerner

The body, seeking truth, sends a signal. But decoding it, interpreting its meaning, and knowing how to proceed from there is another matter entirely. — Harriet Lerner

Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm. — Harriet Lerner

If you want a recipe for relationship failure, just wait for the other person to change first. — Harriet Lerner

what fuels human unhappiness in both the personal and political realm can be boiled down to these three key emotions - anxiety, fear, and shame. — Harriet Lerner

Pretending can be a bold form of experimentation and inventiveness. In pretending joy or happiness, we may discover or enhance our capacity for it. — Harriet Lerner

Whatever your sex fantasy is with your partner, consider it normal. — Harriet Lerner

Intensity is not the same as intimacy, although we tend to confuse these two words. — Harriet Lerner

Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions. — Harriet Lerner

It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while. — Harriet Lerner

Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all. — Harriet Lerner

Don't count on the power of your love or your nagging to create something that wasn't there to begin with. — Harriet Lerner

Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to. — Harriet Lerner

We all fear change, even as we seek it. — Harriet Lerner

Judging people for whom they love (a same sex partner) rather than by whom they harm, should in itself merit a psychiatric diagnosis. — Harriet Lerner

Underground issues from one relationship or context invariably fuel our fires in another. — Harriet Lerner

Many of our problems with anger occur when we choose between having a relationship and having a self. — Harriet Lerner

The happiest people are focused on living their own life (not someone else's) as well as possible. — Harriet Lerner

No book or expert can protect us from the range of painful emotions that make us human. — Harriet Lerner

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard. — Harriet Lerner

There's a widespread belief that if you have solid self-esteem you don't need outside affirmation and praise. This is patently untrue, by the way. — Harriet Lerner

Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is to stop trying to be helpful. — Harriet Lerner

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses. — Harriet Lerner

Fear has never helped anybody make good choices. It leads to clinging when we should be walking. — Harriet Lerner

We commonly confuse closeness with sameness and view intimacy as the merging of two separate I's into one worldview. — Harriet Lerner

Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person. — Harriet Lerner

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy. — Harriet Lerner

The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don't want to. — Harriet Lerner

When anxiety disrupts functioning, it's psychiatric illness. — Harriet Lerner

When you can't see yourself objectively, you won't see anyone else objectively, either. — Harriet Lerner

Kids want nothing more than for all the important adults in their life to get along. — Harriet Lerner

Although the connections are not always obvious, personal change is inseparable from social and political change. — Harriet Lerner

Men are often (though not always) the pursuers for sex, just like women are often (though not always) the pursuers for conversation. — Harriet Lerner

Your children are not little mirrors reflecting back the good or bad job you've done. — Harriet Lerner

What initially attracts us and what later becomes 'the problem' are usually one and the same. — Harriet Lerner

We need to hear the sound of our voice for what we think and need. — Harriet Lerner

You can't evaluate a prospective partner if you insulate your relationship from your family and friends
and his. — Harriet Lerner

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others. — Harriet Lerner

It's remarkable how many couples can precisely describe their particular pattern of painful fighting, and claim to be helpless to change it. — Harriet Lerner

Love alone is never a good enough reason to marry. — Harriet Lerner

Feeling essentially superior to other people is as sure a sign of poor self-esteem as feeling essentially inferior. — Harriet Lerner

If what we are doing with our anger is not achieving the desired result, it would seem logical to try something different. — Harriet Lerner

The miracle is that your children will love you with all your imperfections if you can do the same for them. — Harriet Lerner

Nothing you say can ensure that the other person will get it, or respond the way you want. You may never exceed his threshold of deafness. — Harriet Lerner

As many have observed, it is easy to tell a lie, but it is almost impossible to tell only one. — Harriet Lerner

venting anger does not solve the problem that anger signals. — Harriet Lerner

Silence can pose a greater threat than the difficult truth. — Harriet Lerner

Feeling inadequate is an occupational hazard of motherhood. — Harriet Lerner

If you pursue a distancer, he or she will distance more. Consider it a fundamental law of physics. — Harriet Lerner

As long as we can feel hope, there is hope. — Harriet Lerner

Differences don't just threaten and divide us. They also inform, enrich, and enliven us. — Harriet Lerner