Harriet Lerner Quotes
Top 56 wise famous quotes and sayings by Harriet Lerner
Harriet Lerner Famous Quotes & Sayings
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Wherever you find a wife and mother-in-law slugging it out, you'll find a son who's not speaking up to either his mother or his wife.
Being in touch with our bodies, or more accurately, being our bodies, is how we know what is true. Harriet
Believing that all women should want to be mothers makes about as much sense as believing that all men should want to be engineers.
People marry with a deep longing that their partner will tend to their wounds, not throw salt in them. Honor your partner's vulnerability.
The body, seeking truth, sends a signal. But decoding it, interpreting its meaning, and knowing how to proceed from there is another matter entirely.
what fuels human unhappiness in both the personal and political realm can be boiled down to these three key emotions - anxiety, fear, and shame.
Pretending can be a bold form of experimentation and inventiveness. In pretending joy or happiness, we may discover or enhance our capacity for it.
Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.
Those of us who are locked into ineffective expressions of anger suffer as deeply as those of us who dare not get angry at all.
Don't count on the power of your love or your nagging to create something that wasn't there to begin with.
Judging people for whom they love (a same sex partner) rather than by whom they harm, should in itself merit a psychiatric diagnosis.
Many of our problems with anger occur when we choose between having a relationship and having a self.
There's a widespread belief that if you have solid self-esteem you don't need outside affirmation and praise. This is patently untrue, by the way.
Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.
We commonly confuse closeness with sameness and view intimacy as the merging of two separate I's into one worldview.
We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.
The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don't want to.
Although the connections are not always obvious, personal change is inseparable from social and political change.
Men are often (though not always) the pursuers for sex, just like women are often (though not always) the pursuers for conversation.
You can't evaluate a prospective partner if you insulate your relationship from your family and friends
and his.
and his.
Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.
It's remarkable how many couples can precisely describe their particular pattern of painful fighting, and claim to be helpless to change it.
Feeling essentially superior to other people is as sure a sign of poor self-esteem as feeling essentially inferior.
If what we are doing with our anger is not achieving the desired result, it would seem logical to try something different.
The miracle is that your children will love you with all your imperfections if you can do the same for them.
Nothing you say can ensure that the other person will get it, or respond the way you want. You may never exceed his threshold of deafness.